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The 7 Steps Necessary to Overcoming Drug Addiction

To beat drug addiction, what are the necessary lessons that must be learned? What does the addict need to gain in the way of skills, physical or moral strengths, abilities?

To transform a drug addict into a productive and stably drug-free person is quite an accomplishment. There are some necessary changes that must be made, by the addict, before that goal can be reached.

Factors which MUST be addressed:

1. First and foremost, drug use must cease.

This seems so obvious that it need not be mentioned. This might require medical help during the initial withdrawal, but usually can be accomplished comfortably and without using dangerous drugs.

2. Poisonous drug and drug residues must be removed from the body.

This is called detox. But the word detox has wrongly come to mean just staying off drugs for a short period. That does not did the body of all the toxins built up over years of drug abuse. Never settle for anything less that complete cleansing of the body.

3. The addict needs to gain the ability to feel comfortable in social situations without alcohol or drugs.

Communication skills and simple ways to communicate effectively must be learned as these are usually poorly known to a drug or alcohol addicted person.

4. A regaining of personal integrity is a very important part of recovery.

The addict must be able to feel good about himself or herself. They must have self-respect enough to look others right in the eye. This is gained through the understanding of what k

5. Getting out from under the weight of past misdeeds.

In order to change unacceptable behavior, it must be recognized. So a “coming clean” about past activities has long been known to help. This is one of the most powerful of all these steps, and one of the most necessary to full recovery.

6. A method of proceeding in life must be learned.

If the person is to refrain from drugs forever there should be fewer than usual surprising circumstances. The unexpected can be unsettling and in the past, the addict turned to drugs to deal with surprises. An effective treatment should teach methods of not only predicting future events, but controlling them to a large degree.

7. Finally, goals are needed to provide needed direction and purpose in life.

Setting sights on a better future does more than simply raise the mood, it designates activity, it defines borders and keeps a person focused on pro-survival endeavors. A worthwhile and attainable goal can provide the push, the impetus that carries a recovering addict right through bumpy periods.

How to Talk to a Drug Addict

If you have an addict in the family, you are certainly aware that bringing up the subject of drug addiction is like playing with fireworks in a burning house. They blow up more often than not.

What is the real cause of this? On the surface it looks like they are “just touchy” on the subject. But saying they are just touchy does not lead to a solution. Why are they so sensitive? How can you get around the booby-traps in the conversation and have a real, to-the-point discussion of the problem?

There is a way, a way you can converse openly and freely with them about the drugs and the behaviors and even the possibilities of getting help for the addiction.

But in order to get them to open up, you have to make some changes in how YOU are talking to them. I know, I know, the problem is totally theirs, not yours, right?

Wrong.

If you really want to help that person, you need to forget about all the problems that you have, the troubles their behavior is causing you. This is not about you, it is about the drug addicted person, your daughter, your son, your spouse, whatever.

If you want them to be strong enough to discuss the problem, you must lead the way by being strong yourself and dropping all your indignation, your fear and worries and resentments.

Remember, the drug addicted person is using drugs because of a weakness. Everyone has weaknesses, but the addict happens to have weakness right in the very areas that would lead to addiction to drugs or some other addictive behavior, or other potential obsession. He or she probably feels pretty bad about the whole situation already, it will not help for you to come in and point out the obvious.

You need to make the addict feel that telling you the truth is not going to open another barrage of recriminations. No one wants to feel stupid, especially someone with exposed nerves, like the drug addict. Make him or her feel like it is totally safe to speak freely with you. You must not make them feel wrong or deficient when they open up, even when they tell you something shocking. You must keep an even keel and let the unburdening continue.

They are trying desperately to hold onto a shred of self-respect. You must let them have it if you want some meaningful dialogue.

If you can listen carefully without gasping or showing your incredulous shock, and if you can get the addict to understand that you do not consider him or her an idiot or a criminal, it is a good time to discuss the options open to recovery from addiction.

Remember, you must be strong enough for the both of you, keep your temper and your eyes on the goal of a safe space in which the addict feels it is possible to bare his soul and move forward.

Believe me, after taking addicts off drugs for many years, I know that this is half the battle of rehabilitation. You will have accomplished a tremendous amount by just getting some clean, open communication between yourself and the drug addict.

Some Children Need Drug Rehab Too

Often times we hear devastating stories of drug addiction among children. As the years go on we see more and more children becoming addicted to drugs like, Xanax, Oxycontin, heroin, marijuana and cocaine. What is even more upsetting is that the earlier these children start the less chance they have of ever coming clean off these drugs. The only real way to handle this problem is to enroll them in an effective drug rehab.

Unfortunately parents all over the country are running into the problem of not being able to find reputable programs to handle their children. For years the only way to enroll someone into a rehab was to wait until they were adults. However, we can clearly see that the problem starts way before someone reaches the age of 18.

What kind of rehabs are out there? For parents of children who are abusing drugs this may be the first time they encountering such a huge and dangerous problem. Often times they do not even know where to turn. One of the most successful actions in finding the right rehab for a child is to seek the help of a drug and alcohol counselor.

Drug and alcohol counselors provide a free of charge service and help guide parents into picking the right facility for their child. These drug and alcohol counselors are extremely knowledgeable in the field of addiction and recovery and will be able to point distraught parents in the right direction.

Another problem parents can run into is knowing if their child is really on drugs or not. This can be hard to tell because for children and especially teenagers, they are constantly changing their appearance, moods and behaviors. However there are some things that usually indicate drug use. If your teen is doing the following you may have a problem on your hands; not associating with old friends, changing groups of friends, not introducing you to their friends, associating with known drug addicts, experiencing depression, anxiety, or severe mood swings, dropped grades, truancy or tardiness, and not communicating, or communicating much less and spending long periods of time by themselves.

There are plenty of drug rehabs that will accept children and help them learn to live a drug and alcohol free life. If you or anyone you know is in need of help for a substance abuse problem please call a drug and alcohol counselor immediately. Help is available.